What is a sucessful divorce ?

When both parties are resolved that as far as one of them is concerned, there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation then there is no course but for divorce.

Mediation is the best path for divorcing couples to reach agreement because mediation provides:

• A civil parting so both parties can talk - You never become a single parent if you were married when you had children. While the marriage may end, the rights, responsibilities and duties of parenting children continues into their early adulthood: perhaps decades in your situation. There will be new issues and problems. Wouldn't it be better for everyone concerned if you learned a methodology to talk things through, and if that failed, could get help from a trusted and unbiased mediator who would help resolve legal issues without going to court?
• A methodology and forum to resolve problems in the future without going to court - The adversarial legal process destroys the ability of the parties to talk or trust one another, divorce attorneys are paid by the hour and are paid more where there is more dispute, the forum is truth through confrontation increasing the emotional tension, and is designed to result in a winner and loser, but in realtity results in a dysfunctional family where everybody loses. The divorce mediation process provides a non-confrontrational forum, with a trained mediator, that helps the parties identify their legitimate concerns, and work together to find a creative solution that is least painful for all concerned;
• Both parties equally contribute - Both parties contribute to the terms of the divorce so that it is fair and reasonable for their particular situation. Rather than a divorce attorney or judge telling you what to do, you participate in a moderated discussion, where neither party has any advantage, and you cann decide how to divorce and upon terms that you decide are fair and reasonable under your family situation;
• A parenting plan that has the least impact on the children and respects the legitimate concerns of both parents - Since you have direct input into the scheduling, duties and responsibilities, you can customize your parenting plan to fit your needs, and have the ability to change it as circumstances dictate. You will not get hung up on legal definitions of custody but on the real fundamentals of responsibility, co-parenting and cooperation for the best interests of the children;
• A process that is quicker and costs substantially less in both money and goodwill - Mediation can result in a divorce in months rather than years, and cost thousands of dollars less.;
• Privacy and confidence - Discussions with the divorce mediator attorney about your finances, children or spouse can not be used as evidence against either party or by third parties.

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